For today's guest writer Wednesday, Brazilian Flare got vlogger and instagrammer Georgia Bell to share with you some life lessons that apply to everybody. Also, she tell's us to SHUT UP! Read more to know why 😉
Everyone wants to be different. To feel special: to prove to the world, “I deserve to be here.” It’s one of those frustratingly beautiful things about humanity that forces us to adapt and grow. I, like so many others, chose to run thousands of miles across the earth in search of some answers. Over the course of a year, I have travelled from my home country, the United States, to Germany, Slovenia, Brazil, Croatia, Poland, and Norway. Here are some of the things I learned along the way.
Perhaps my most shocking discovery was the amount of things I do to impress other people. I guess I had some sort of complex, some idea that I was misunderstood or something. That people would see how great I was if I just moved to an exotic place or bungee jumped or learned a language. I couldn’t stop replaying things that people had said to me in the past– teachers in high school, family members, even mean kids in my class. I felt like I was fighting some invisible battle against them. Like I was trying to get back at them for how they made me feel, to say: “See? Look where I ended up. You were wrong about me. You underestimated me.”
As the year went on, I realized something pretty obvious: those people weren’t there any more. They didn’t care about me, just like I didn’t care about what they were doing. No one really spends time obsessing over what random people from their past have done with their life. I wasn’t proving anything to them at all. I was fighting a battle with my own confidence, and I had just used those people from my past as an excuse– as someone to blame. The voice in my head telling me I wasn’t good enough was my own, and the only person who could shut it up was me.
So do yourself a favor and when you hear those negative thoughts eating away at your confidence, tell yourself, “Shut up!” And move on.
2. Everyone is Ugly
I’m an obsessive person. It runs in my family. And the number one thing I was obsessed with was how I looked. I spent hours a day on my hair, makeup, diet and exercise routine with the steadfast belief that if I looked perfect, my life would be. Once I left home, however, everything turned crazy. The rules for what made you “pretty” in the United States made you look “artificial” in Germany, and the muted colors so popular in Norway were frowned upon in Brazil. In some countries, my translucent white skin and hair were laughed at, and in others, strangers approached me just to tell me I was beautiful. It turned my whole world upside down.
I had wasted my entire life placing so much value on one standard of beauty, 100% convinced it was the only way. The reality of things is this: everyone is ugly, or beautiful, or whatever you want it to be. It doesn’t matter. Whether it’s sex appeal or personality or how you carry yourself, you’ll never be perfect for everyone. And you will always be perfect for someone. So do the thing that makes you happiest, and don’t let anyone else define what you think is beautiful. Look for the beauty in every person you meet. The curve of their lips, their laugh, their hands, even their effect on you. And most importantly, take the time to look fearlessly in the mirror and find every bit of beauty in yourself.
3. DON’t be afraid to poop in other People’s HOuses
I’m aware of how weird this sounds. But hear me out. Have you ever felt weird about pooping in someone else’s house? Or taking food from their fridge, even though they said it was ok? Have you ever apologized for talking too much or eating the last cookie or dropping something?
These are all situations where you take up space. You’re affecting the lives of other people through your actions. I was constantly berating myself for spilling things, asking for help, inconveniencing others, etc. Finally, I said, “Enough!” Everyone needs to use the bathroom, to eat, to express themselves, and to make mistakes. Would you be mad at someone else for any of the things mentioned above? It’s a complete waste of energy and stress. The point I’m trying to get at here is this: Allow yourself to take up just as much space as you need to feel comfortable out in the world.
You can be a kind, considerate, and honest person while still taking up space. Stop punishing yourself for being human, and don’t let other people push you around and make you feel like you’re not good enough to claim that space for yourself. If others put you down because of your new confidence, they don’t deserve you anyway. ♡
Todo mundo quer ser diferente. Para se sentir especial: para provar ao mundo: “Eu mereço estar aqui”. É uma daquelas coisas frustrantemente bonitas sobre a humanidade que nos obriga a nos adaptar e crescer. Eu, como tantos outros, escolhi correr milhares de quilômetros pela terra em busca de algumas respostas. Ao longo de um ano, viajei do meu país natal, os Estados Unidos, para a Alemanha, Eslovênia, Brasil, Croácia, Polônia e Noruega. Aqui estão algumas das coisas que aprendi ao longo do caminho.
1. Cale a boca!
2. Todo mundo é feio
3. Não tenha medo de fazer cocô nas casas de outras pessoas
Youtube: Georgia Bell Instagram: @bell.georgia
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